26
Feb
13

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Remembering Trayvon Martin

A year ago today, Florida resident, George Zimmerman shot and killed 17-year-old Trayvon Martin.  So far Zimmerman is charged with second-degree murder.  A jury will rule on his case beginning on June 10th.  The case is controversial and has caused a massive out-pour of hatred, love, sadness, confusion, and mixed feelings all over the country.

I listened to the 911 tape for the first time today.  I cried like a baby as if this tragedy just happened yesterday.  Flashing across my mind was all of the young males I know and what their fate would be in a world full of people like Zimmerman.  After listening to the 911 piece I couldn’t help but wonder if Zimmerman planned the outcome of this all along.  He was on the phone with the dispatcher making stereotypical statements referring to as he states Trayvon’s “odd behavior.  What if he was saying these things to set the stage for what was to come?  I clearly heard the dispatcher on the audio piece telling Zimmerman not to follow him.  Zimmerman said “okay.” He followed him anyway?  The bloody nose whether it was broken or not is something to be expected when you try to straddle or wrestle with a 17 year old young male of any color, if it was a girl there would probably had been more scratches.

 Recently, my sister and I pulled into our neighborhood Chevron station for gas and came across this sign on the door.  ImageWe were shocked that in these days that anyone would want to go there.  It couldn’t have been for fear of someone robbing them because then I would say they forgot about adding the no ski mask sign.  When we see this type of behavior, should we be supporting businesses like this?  Should we make an example of this behavior so that there will be less of it in our community?

Today I’ve been wondering if we have gotten closer to love and harmony in the land or further away.  What do you think?

20
Feb
13

The Journey

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The Journey

     Since I am the person that I least like to talk about, I am forcing myself to be the subject of conversation on this blog.  I can honestly say that all of my other blog postings have never been targeted towards anyone in particular other than myself and what I feel I could learn from my own self-discovery.  My motivation for some of my blogs is that if I could create food for thought for myself then maybe I should try to take a few people on the journey with me.  This is so that even if you don’t perceive what and how I perceive things the most important thing is that you are thinking about something.  Thinking is an important element of your journey.

     My birthday is quickly approaching.  I walked this trail in the picture which is connected to my subdivision, frantically trying to come up with a theme or present to give myself, more self-discovery.  Or should I say something to start, stop, tweak, recreate, refuel, or all of the above.  When I was in my workroom last night I picked up a book from my shelf and it talked about creating your space and it said “If you are blessed with the love of decorating and if your space somehow speaks to you, you are loving yourself and dignifying your own life when you work to make your home not only the place where you present your prized possessions and entertain, but also an extension of your soul. “  I began to look around and being the artist that I am I didn’t see myself, my work, or my new ideas on life and living represented.  This sparked me to give that to myself as a birthday present; to recreate, renovate, tweak, revise, refuel, enhance and energize my inner self and my surroundings. 

     For such an epiphany I must sincerely prepare myself to set out on this journey.  I will keep you posted.   

30
Jan
13

Time to Tweak

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It’s raining like crazy today.  Since I love the rain, I was frantically trying to decide how I am going to capture this moment.  I figured it out that I would turn off the TV and radio and just have everything around me silenced so that sound could not compete with the constant drops of the calming rain. The sound of the rain gave me the answer to what else I should do and that was to just listen.  I was thinking that just in case God wanted to talk to me He wouldn’t get the distractions of my life, chores, loud music, work, or any of the many other happenings that would cause me not to hear what He has to say to me.

This is also a perfect time to reflect on the passing of the first month of 2013.  Did I work at changing the things that I had intended to?  Did I continue with the new routines and regiments that I had decided to introduce into my life starting from January 2013?  Since we only have one month vested in 2013 this is a perfect time to reflect on what is working and what is not working and why.  It is a perfect time to tweak.  All it takes is a day like today or any other time you can shut out the noise of your everyday life and let God order your steps, tell you what you can improve, what’s definitely not working for you, and how you can live His purpose for your life.  I know it’s not easy but it is “time to tweak.”      

22
Jan
13

Living the Dream

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Living the Dream

Wow!  This is the only word I can think of to sum up my feelings today.  I am just taking in every moment of this day and it is not like any other.  If anyone had ever told me at any point in time as I was growing up that not only will we one day have an African American President, but that he will serve two terms and most of all that his 2nd Inauguration date would be held on the day we would be celebrating Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.’s birthday.  Well I still can’t believe it! I’ve been crying off and on all day.  Talk about really taking it in.

Growing up in Brooklyn was different from what was going on in the south and there is a lot of the negative side of the Civil Rights Movement that we didn’t get to see and experience firsthand except for what was on television or in the newspapers.  Of course we had to deal with the discrimination, hatred, and rejection, but this was not nearly as devastating as being hung, having guns pulled on you or water hoses sprayed on you or being hit with sticks as our people in the south.  To us Dr. King was someone out of this world and unimaginable and great.  He was someone we saw in the newspapers and television and admired for his outstanding contributions and sometimes us not understanding his peaceful approach.

This day reminds me of the day that my son then 12, and my daughter 20 at the time, was in Atlanta on vacation and we went to Ebenezer Baptist Church on a warm Easter morning.  It was crowded and we were not able to sit together.  For this reason my son happened to be placed just a few seats from Coretta Scott King and I sat in the section to the right of them.  I watched my son during the entire service just sitting and staring at Mrs. King in complete awe.  I wasn’t close enough to tell him not to stare that it was impolite but I don’t think he would have been able to stop if I had.  As the service started, in walks Dexter King through a side door and my son’s head just went back and forth like watching a tennis match.  It was like the people in his history book came to life.  I thought about that day because this is what I’m feeling today history being played out before me.

Happy King Day and 2nd Inauguration Day to all!!

14
Aug
12

Alone At Last!I…

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I never thought I could miss being home alone and spending hours not talking to ANYBODY.  I forgot what that felt like.  The closer it got to the back to school date the more anxiety set in to have that moment alone when everybody is out of the house, except my dog of course.    Don’t get me wrong, I love my children but I also love that early morning time that I spend alone when I can’t hear anything but the birds.Image

This time I was prepared.  After the last person left this morning it was time to have the biggest breakfast celebration ever known to man and to get back to what I was planning to do when the girls went back to school. 

When you have listened to far too many stories, sat through a number of movies you weren’t interested in, or assisted in baking a cake you didn’t need to eat, the time comes when you need to replenish your spirit.  Although we love our children, don’t give a second thought about whether or not to take some time out for yourself.  It is extremely important to your survival to be able to take a deep breath, pray and meditate on God’s beautiful words.  Give some thought to the things that make you feel the best and execute a plan.    

08
Aug
12

Christian Reali…

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Christian Reality Shows, Really!

What’s really going on?  I was up late last night, as usual and came across the newest member to join the reality show roster; sorry you’ll have to find out like I did, I’m not here to bash, just want to make a point.  What a shock that was for me.  Don’t get me wrong, people can choose to do as they please.  Since nobody asked my opinion I might as well give it as I please.  Here goes.

I don’t know about anyone else but I’m starting to feel like celebrity Christians, (is that such a thing?), seem to be taking notoriety a little too far and getting sidetrack in projects that can possibly compromise their call.  What I mean by this is, say for instance a pastor wanted to get into the reality arena, depending upon how much of his or her life gets exposed or distorted for the sake of ratings, they can possibly lose the very people they are called to influence.  For sure there will be many people who will view their reality show and have a slight change of heart about that person and their ministry.

While reality TV has gotten a very bad rap these days, it is a real sticky situation for Christian reality shows to jump in the arena in an effort to show viewers another side of life.  This can backfire and have a tendency to look like one and the same.  Past Christian reality shows have proven that.  There may not have been any table turning, slapping, or fist fights but I have seen instances where I was able to ask “What are they doing there?”  It’s a very slippery slope and hopefully Christian Reality TV will stand the test of time and will not slide down into the pits.

04
Aug
12

What I’ve Learned So Far

                                                      Who Stole Your Joy! Take It Back!

The American Heritage Dictionary’s definition of joy is intense and especially ecstatic or exultant happiness.  Do you have that?  Why?  Joy is a precious thing that is hard to keep but easy to loose if you’re not paying attention.  With the distractions in the world it is very easy for you to loose your joy.  That’s why you have to be of the world.

You may or may not have ever been one incident away from allowing someone or something to actually steal your joy from you without even noticing it.  It could have been a relationship, a marriage ending in divorce, the loss of a loved one, or financial struggles.  All of these things and a lot more could occur to bring on the feelings of hopelessness and unhappiness.  Sure you may sometimes have short moments of joy and small pockets of happiness.  Would you consider that to be enough to satisfy the craving for true joy?

Have you ever noticed that we say things like “I will be so happy when this or that happens?  Or we may say “I’m waiting for this or that to happen then I will finally be happy again.”  A good one is “When this is finally over, I’m going to celebrate and be happy again.”  We are always waiting for something to happen or to get a problem solved before we will reward ourselves with joy.  That’s not true joy.

Joy is not only for woman.  Men can also use a little joy in their life as well.  I believe in the case of men they are the ones who are least likely to notice that they don’t have joy in their life because they are the more serious beings.   Here are a few ways that I learned so far to get your joy back.

Be Present In Your Life – Being present simply means paying attention to yourself and your surroundings.  Know what you are thinking and why.  Pay attention to your emotional state by being aware when you are unhappy for too long.  Be engaging by being present in your interactions with others.   Make time to be in the company of people you enjoy and pay attention to make good memories, don’t put that off, it’s important.   

Be Enthusiastic – Be excited and interested in what’s going on in your life.  Look forward to good times without dreading the experience.  Expect to have a happy and rewarding experience.  Sometimes the way you go into a situation helps to prepare you to get the right things out of it.

Be Willing To Renew Your Mind – Nothing different will happen if you keep the same mindset.  Make up your mind to change your mind and put the plan in motion to think more positively about your life, take time out for yourself to do things you enjoy.  Work at seeing past yourself and your circumstances.

Always remember that being miserable is a choice.  So is having joy.

 

“joy.” The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition. 2003. Houghton Mifflin Company 4 Aug. 2012 http://www.thefreedictionary.com/joy